It is easy to get overwhelmed.
Do you know to pick yourself up when you don’t think you can get through the rest of the day?
I love the quote from Winston Churchill, “When you’re going through hell, keep on going.”
We’ve all been there.
Almost through the day, tired, maybe in some pain or dealing with a headache and just feeling completely, absolutely drained.
Feeling like you could just lay down on the floor, give up, let the world around you keep going on without you.
Or, it could be so much more, like how I felt after the week I found out my eleven year old son had broken his hip, being emergency care flighted across the state to the children’s hospital to have surgery; trying to cope with the rare, life threatening infection he got from the surgery and not leaving his hospital room for almost a week. One morning I woke up early and realized I was so drained I wasn’t sure if I had the energy to go on.
I was shocked at how I felt, almost angry, and immediately started judging myself for feeling this way when my son needed me so much… especially since I am usually the queen of tenacity and can get through anything.
This happened to me the other night and I realized during those long months when my son was recovering, I learned how to cope with that feeling of giving up instead of just staying there. I want to share this strength with you so the next time you’re there, you can really be there for yourself.
The down to earth, heart of the problem when you’re feeling drained is that you haven’t been there for yourself like you needed to be. Sometimes we as parents, caregivers, friends and spouses we forget to be there for ourselves.
SO, when you realize you are on this downward spiral or that drained, done feeling sneaks up on you suddenly, trudging through whatever you are doing or going through, stop and take a moment for yourself.
After taking a minute to breathe and feel where you’re at, start by talking to yourself like you talk to your children or a younger sibling you love.
Give yourself a heartfelt pep talk. Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, keep talking to yourself like you do your loved ones. Have the empathy for the way you feel, but remind yourself how amazing you are.
I always start with: “OK, how did I get here? This isn’t really me, I am so much more than this!”
Sometimes I have to admit, I end up in a much needed cry for a few minutes while I let go of the things I’ve been holding onto too tightly. That’s totally fine if you need to release. Then I continue listening to myself, what has been hard for me, what I think I need to do and anything else that comes up. Once I start to feel a little better, I start praising myself on the hard stuff I’ve got through, and work on solutions I can handle the changes I need to make.
This sounds simple, but it really works. Before you know it you’ll feel a little better… keep talking… and a little bit better… keep going… until you feel quite a bit better.
At the end of the day, get in some water – a bath, shower or pool – relax, and then get a good night’s sleep. You will feel one hundred percent better in the morning. And the more you show up for yourself, the stronger you’ll be to handle the life you want.